The First Several Traits... of a Loser

Before you proceed to jump into a new relationship,  watch out for several traits you saw in your ex before. Here are some of the signs that he is a LOSER and not worth keeping.

1. He drives like a maniac. Seriously. He yells at the other drivers and has no patience. He probably has anger issues. He brags about how good he is with maneuvering cars but careful. You might end up in a silly accident with him. Never let him drive your cars with that attitude.

2. Asking questions that have to deal with getting personal/touchy feely… Oh no. That is too much too soon. According to dating guru Patti Stanger, this is a serious red flag and indicates that he has no respect for boundaries and certainly has no class. And that’s probably all he is really after as well.

3. Asking questions that are way too personal – the first date or two even should be simple get-to-know-you stuff, not questions about how much you make or what’s your credit score.

4. He’s too good to be true. He probably is. It’s OK if he is trying to put his best foot forward, but not if it means lying to impress you. If he brags a lot, it’s actually a show of a lack of confidence and insecurity.

5. He’s wearing an ankle bracelet. I’m not talking the gold kind here; I’m talking about the one placed there by the long arm of the law…He might be innocent and then again he might not be!

6. Rude to other people – he is disrespectful to the waiter or waitress at dinner or anyone else that you encounter. He may be nice to you at the time, but it’s only a matter of time before he disrespects you, too.

7. Rants about an ex or his exs negatively – he still has anger issues and is probably still in love with her. And most of all, he’s not taking the blame. Divorce comes about and relationships end usually because of the fault of both people, not just one.

8. He shows signs of jealousy – this is a red flag from the start. He will most likely be this kind of guy if he asks a lot of questions about past relationships; asks a lot about what kind of guy you like (one or two is OK, but if he dwells on it, take off!); he gets mad if you are too friendly with the waiter; and he asks a lot about who you socialize with.

9. Consuming too much alcohol – sure a little drink might be in order to relax, but when he orders another and then another, don’t even think about getting back in that car with him. Make some excuse and call a friend or cab and run away.

So ladies, don’t fall for the same type of men who will crush your heart over and over again.

Cheers!

A Few More Ways... to Say Goodbye.

It is not your fault for whatever had happened to him. You have tried every tricks in the books to make him see that your intention is to bring him back to his senses and start a new life. It's over. Let him live in his fantasy that he created out of insecurities and desperation. Give him the lyric below and ask him to listen to the song carefully. 

Remember, a man who never appreciate all the little things that you do, doesn't deserve your truest love. It will hurt for a while but you will get over it.

"Desperado"

Desperado, why don't you come to your senses?
You been out ridin' fences for so long now
Oh, you're a hard one
I know that you got your reasons
These things that are pleasin' you
Can hurt you somehow

Don't you draw the queen of diamonds, boy
She'll beat you if she's able
You know the queen of hearts is always your best bet

Now it seems to me, some fine things
Have been laid upon your table
But you only want the ones that you can't get

Desperado, oh, you ain't gettin' no younger
Your pain and your hunger, they're drivin' you home
And freedom, oh freedom well, that's just some people talkin'
Your prison is walking through this world all alone

Don't your feet get cold in the winter time?
The sky won't snow and the sun won't shine
It's hard to tell the night time from the day
You're losin' all your highs and lows
Ain't it funny how the feeling goes away?

Desperado, why don't you come to your senses?
Come down from your fences, open the gate
It may be rainin', but there's a rainbow above you
You better let somebody love you, before it's too late

The First Several Steps... I've Moved On

Crying over spilled milk, losing touch with the world outside. Is it worth it? What would you do over spilled milk? Wipe  it off, wash away the stain, open the fridge and get some new milk from the milk carton. Why worry about it?

Don't ever lose touch with everything and everyone around us. Make sure we are connected to the people we can rely on to be there. Good loyal friends will sit down and listen to you while we rumble away our pain and finally, when we're done with the talking, they will just smile, say nothing and hug our shoulders tightly. Words are simply unnecessary.

Avenging your pain through creating more layers of lies hoping it would hurt the other person is like plunging the dagger that wound you deeper into yourself rather than taking it out. You won't ease the pain and peace will never come to you.

Count the blessings that you have. Thank the person who broke you for making you a stronger and wiser person. Be a happier person because you will never have to force a smile to please anyone anymore.

Be grateful, for our Creator had taught us that life, is a series of never ending story books, ceased only when the last cover is closed.

Laugh away the pain as if it was a bad joke played on you. This helps to cover the wound during healing period.

Most importantly, FORGIVE. You might never forget, but if forgiveness is given, peace shall be yours. Don't dwell on other's guilt by bringing it to your future.